Archive for August, 2008

Are You Distracted By Bright Shiny Objects?

August 4, 2008

Every now and again, just once in a lucky while, opportunities seem to present themselves in a veritable landslide.  You look left and your path is strewn with opportunities.  Look right, and there are yet more choices.  Meanwhile, right in front of you, in front of your very nose, there are still more opportunities.  What’s more, all look equally exciting – each a beautiful shiny gem, gleaming with possibility!

When a myriad of opportunities present themselves like this, it can be really powerful, especially if you have just come out of a dry spell when nothing in your world seemed to be moving or working.  We’ve all experienced a time in our lives – what I like to call an “incubation” period – when we are regrouping and reconsidering much of our business and personal lives.  This is often the precursor to a major shift in life and now is the time to make the decisions about what you really want and need out of life.

Take, for example, one of my most amazing clients who I worked with just this week.  She kept saying things like: “This door has just opened for me.  I was contacted for a TV interview.  I have an editor banging on my door.  I have been given an amazing opportunity for a new product off-shoot and packaging idea.  But I also have this chance to collaborate with another professional woman to launch another arm of my business.  I was thinking I could do… and maybe I could also start…”  In the middle of this monologue, pausing to take a deep breath, she looked at me and we both burst out laughing.  “Wow!” I exclaimed.  “You’re going to be really busy again.”  “Again” being the operative word – her previous pace had nearly put her in an early grave at 38 years old.  “Is this really what you want?”  I asked.  A long pause…  “No, I want my life,” she responded.  “But I also want professional success.  I love my work!  How do I balance this?  How do I choose when I want to do it all?”

Aside from the obvious learning here that you do have to choose what is most important to you, perhaps even more significant is knowing that there actually always are a number of opportunities right in front of you.  It’s just a matter of being open to seeing them.  Of course, at times, the PAUSE button may be on while you regroup, but there truly is never a shortage of opportunities.  What this means is that if you don’t take one opportunity, another will present itself – you need not be afraid of missing out.

To backtrack, however, it really is important that you are ruthless about how you decide to spend your time.  The best way to do this is to deploy the “4 Question Method” of decision making.  Take any given opportunity and ask yourself:

1)       Is this something I want to be, do or have?
2)       Is this going to take me closer to my goal?
3)       Is this in harmony with the laws of the universe?
4)       Is this going to violate the rights of others? 

You are looking for an emphatic “YES” to the first three questions and a “NO” to the last.  This will help you clear the clutter around you and become laser-focused on achieving your end goal.  And even though some projects may seem fun or interesting, if not exactly in alignment with your end goal, you might want to pass on them and focus on what will get you where you want to go.  The only exception to this is if your gut is telling you it’s something you really need to take a look at.  You never know what can come of it.

Finally, keep dreaming, but stay focused on your goals… otherwise you’re liable to get distracted by all those bright shiny objects around you!

About Maria:
Maria Gamb is the founder of and NMS Communications LLC.  She is an executive coach, consultant and speaker who brings her 20+ years experience as a former Fortune 500 Diva and now entrepreneur to the table.  Maria’s mission is to help women unlock their own personal leadership style and create businesses that make an impact on the world around them.  After all, we’re women, not men in skirts.  Our leadership style is uniquely our own and it’s powerful.  Visit Maria on the web at  Sign up for the free ezine [Change Agent] and receive your free special report “The 7 Keys to Transform Your Business & Bottom Line”.