Posts Tagged ‘core truths’

When Gurus Become Gods

November 12, 2009

Yesterday I was pretty restless so I spent several hours in the middle of the day perusing the social media world, updating my tweets and being part of the discussions that were going on.  Personally I love this aspect of social media because it helps me to see what’s really top of mind at the moment. “Great market research” as a dear friend of mine always reminds me.

I’ve noticed is that there are a lot of blog posts and articles being written about teachers, leaders and other note worthy gurus.  I guess that’s fair enough.  When you become more public and are in a position of power you ultimately open yourself up to criticism, comment and others opinions.  After all we are in a country that protects 1st amendment rights.  Free speech and all that.

What I’m seeing are a lot of people “naming names” and criticizing these people openly. They have paid fees to work with some of them.  Others have attended their educational live events or participated in some other program of one sort or another.  So there is  the element of free-will and participation in the exchange.  Actually giving permission to the teacher or leader to impart their particular form of wisdom to the attendee.  Rather than expressing any level of gratitude or appreciation I have witness some pretty severe and sometimes outlandish slamming .

Listen, I’ve paid for these types of services too and found myself less than satisfied but you know what? I made the choice to participate by handing over my credit card.  So it’s my choice. My free will. My money.  Sometimes I wish I hadn’t.  But who is to blame?  No one but me.  It was a choice that I made.

Often times we make these Gurus into Gods.  Hanging on every word. Wishing for them to impart the perfect solution to whatever is going on.  Is that realistic? I think not.  So I offer these 7 things to keep in mind about any guru, teach, mentor, coach or leader in your life.

1. When a person stands in front of you and professes their truth it is their truth. Their wisdom.  From their point of view and life experience.  It does not mean that it is “the truth” or “the only truth” that exists.

2.   Everyone is entitled to an opinion. When an opinion become a need to “be right” and to make others “wrong” that’s a competitive signal. Meaning “I’m better than her/him”.

3.   Take what you need from this person and forget the rest. Not everything they say and do will resonate with you.  Nor should it.  You’re your own person.  It’s like saying everyone likes vanilla ice cream.  (I personally prefer gelato not ice cream and the flavor of choice is nocciola)

4.   No one Guru has the end all be all answer to your problem.

5.   They WILL say something you don’t like or want to hear. It’s inevitable. Sometimes that’s actually why they are in your life.

6.   They cannot always control their guests, staff statements or opinions. People are people and are unpredictable at times.

7.   Any and every teacher makes mistakes or missteps.  Usually at one point or another they may make a correction or amend a previous error.  They are human and should be permitted for possessing a less-than-perfect character.

Ultimately it is up to you to make decisions for yourself. It is about taking personal responsibility for your actions and outcomes. You are not a victim unless you choose to be.

When you make a Guru a God, that means to ask them to perfect, to have every solution to every problem you’ve given away your personal power and choice.

If you are not in alignment with any Guru, teacher, mentor, coach or leader in your life then move on.

If you do not resonate with what they teach, move on.

And most of all, if you really find what they offer so outlandish then stop supporting them with your attendance and credit card swipes.

Are You Done with the Fear?

October 21, 2008

Transforming Fear Into Courage

 

We are indeed, in a time of great transition.  This transition is often unsettling and disarming.  But as I have stated over the past several weeks this is also a time of great opportunity.  All you have to do is use the Law of Polarity to find it.  One never questions that on the other side of night is day or that if something is hot it can also be made cold.  The law of polarity is “the equal opposite”.

 

This period of opportunity is the potential for newness, creativity and innovation.  Often times we hear people saying “necessity is the mother of invention” – and that could not be more true today!  However, it’s important to have all the oars in the water and each person in the boat rowing with you to facilitate “innovation” within your business. 

 

But what happens when you are met with fear and doubt?  You have this great idea and solution but the group around you (and that can even include family and friends) thinks you’re absolutely nuts and have gone off the deep end.  What’s happening?!  It’s a brilliant solution!  It’s cutting edge marketing or technology! Why the resistance? They are afraid, plain and simple.  They are paralyzed with fear because it means abandoning what they know for something unknown. 

 

The breaking point for any significant change is courage.  In this energy space you have the willingness to embrace change and face challenges.  You are able to literally see the opportunities in front of you and identify growth areas.  It requires the ability to feel the fear in yourself and in others but continue to move forward none-the-less. 

 

Allow those fears to surface and observe them as if you were sitting in a movie theatre watching the latest action or dramatic flick.  Ask yourself what’s really going on here?  Is the consequence of the fear greater than the desire to move forward?  Remember, this stage of courage that you are working within takes faith.  And at times it can be a very lonely place to be.  But you must continue to evaluate if the desire is greater than the risk.  If that desire is not greater then you will not move forward.  In this place of courage, you suspend your disbelief. Often times it is a giant leap of faith and will require a measure of patience. 

 

This shift to change and courageousness must start with YOU before you can get anyone else in the boat with you.  And, by the way, you will most likely need to start paddling with or without others.  It doesn’t matter, just get in the boat yourself and start MOVING.

 

Hold steady.  Yes, it is a challenging time.  On the other side there are great rewards for those who walk through the fear and create something new and innovative out there in the world. We are ALL being called to do this.  You are not alone. Think outside of the box and stop modeling other people! Their “model” is also in need of upgrade, repair and innovation.

 

About Maria:
Maria Gamb is the founder of MariaGamb.com and NMS Communications LLC.  She is an executive coach, consultant and speaker who brings her 20+ years experience as a former Fortune 500 Diva and now entrepreneur to the table.  Maria’s mission is to help women unlock their own personal leadership style and create businesses that make an impact on the world around them.  After all, we’re women, not men in skirts.  Our leadership style is uniquely our own and it’s powerful.  Visit Maria on the web at www.mariagamb.com  Sign up for the free ezine [Change Agent] and receive your free special report “The 7 Keys to Transform Your Business & Bottom Line”.

Can this Chaos really be “Divine”?

October 7, 2008

Comprehending the Current Cleansing Process

 

The latest chaotic events of our financial institutions and government actions continue to dominate headlines. I’m often asked, “What’s happening? Can you explain this in a different, metaphysical manner so I can stand above the fear based media hype?”  Living here in NYC, I see the fear on people’s faces and feel the anxiety gripping my fair metropolis. People are looking for the bigger picture.  They want to see beyond the illusions being fed on the news.  We have reached a pivotal point in our spiritual and evolutionary growth. 

 

“Divine Chaos” is the best term to explain the current state of affairs. To define this, one must understand that chaos is a course corrector.  It is the literal and figurative dismantling of a system and beliefs that are out of alignment with the core truths of any group.  In this particular case, they are our national value systems, beliefs, and national truths.  This dismantling is done so it a new structure of consciousness can be put into place.  In fact there must be a complete dismantling in order for this new growth to emerge.

 

By nature man will grasp at, hold onto and defend the thing that he values most.  Usually that “value” is his belief system.  He will take action based on this belief system and the results reflect his mindset. This is the Universal Law of Cause & Effect in action.

 

Do you remember the 1987 Michael Douglas movie “Wall Street”  ?  The most memorable line in the movie was “Greed is good”.  Unfortunately, this is a value that many have held fast to in this country and the result – well, it is what we are seeing unfold.  It is an ideal that we have projected and lived for nearly two decades.

 

However, this subconscious belief is crumbling before our eyes.  In the aftermath, I will tell you that we will become a more group of conscious entrepreneurs and business community leaders.  Why?  Because this old belief system is burning itself out and people are realizing that they must be more conscious in everything they do.  That means being truthful, compassionate and loving in ALL their affairs.

 

We have begun to see this shift as more people are paying attention to the environment and health care, and global communities are forming to aid others at a far more rapid rate than any other time in our history.  The quality and integrity of our leaders are being evaluated with much greater attention than ever before.  These are all signs of a raise in consciousness. 

 

Human consciousness is the greatest raw material we have in making any profound changes. Residing in this consciousness is the ability to co-create and generate something profoundly powerful. But this requires self-mastery. To quote Patricia Aburdene, “Worldly power without self-mastery is the downfall of leadership.”

 

Are you ready to step into self-mastery?

 

About Maria:
Maria Gamb is the founder of MariaGamb.com and NMS Communications LLC.  She is an executive coach, consultant and speaker who brings her 20+ years experience as a former Fortune 500 Diva and now entrepreneur to the table.  Maria’s mission is to help women unlock their own personal leadership style and create businesses that make an impact on the world around them.  After all, we’re women, not men in skirts.  Our leadership style is uniquely our own and it’s powerful.  Visit Maria on the web at www.mariagamb.com  Sign up for the free ezine [Change Agent] and receive your free special report “The 7 Keys to Transform Your Business & Bottom Line”.